Conflict Resolution Style Assessment

Avoidance

How honestly you face important issues instead of disappearing, pretending, delaying, or letting resentment grow.

Question 1 of 3 When an important issue needs to be addressed, what are you most likely to do?

I avoid it until it becomes bigger. I delay and hope the pressure reduces. Sometimes I face it and sometimes I avoid it. I usually bring it up with care. I address it honestly before resentment grows.

Question 2 of 3 When you are hurt, how do you handle silence, blocking, disappearing, or delayed replies?

I may use distance as punishment. I withdraw and struggle to return well. It depends on how hurt I feel. I usually explain that I need space. I can take space without using it to punish.

Question 3 of 3 When other people get involved in a conflict, what pattern is most true?

I may let gossip, screenshots, or other people speak for me. I talk around the person before speaking directly. Sometimes I go direct and sometimes I avoid it. I usually speak to the person directly. I handle concerns directly and respectfully.

Escalation

How well you keep dignity, tone, and safety when anger or frustration rises.

Question 1 of 3 When frustration rises, what happens to your tone and words?

I may shout, insult, threaten, mock, or embarrass. I try to stay respectful, but emotion can leak out. It depends on the conflict. I usually keep dignity in the conversation. I protect respect even when I am angry.

Question 2 of 3 When jealousy, correction, or disappointment triggers you, what happens next?

I react quickly and regret it later. I hold back sometimes, but not consistently. Sometimes I manage it well. I usually pause before responding. I can notice activation and choose a wiser response.

Question 3 of 3 When conflict is private, how do you handle social media or group drama?

I may post, expose, or pull others into it. I try not to, but emotions can push me. Sometimes I keep it private and sometimes I do not. I usually keep private conflict private. I protect privacy and deal with the issue maturely.

Repair

How well you return after conflict to apologise, clarify, listen, and rebuild trust.

Question 1 of 3 After conflict, what usually happens between you and the other person?

We avoid repair and act like nothing happened. Repair happens only if the other person starts. Sometimes repair happens and sometimes it does not. I usually come back to repair. I return with humility, clarity, and a desire to rebuild trust.

Question 2 of 3 When you need to apologise, what is hardest?

I avoid apologising or shift all blame away from me. I apologise, but excuses weaken it. Sometimes I apologise clearly. I usually apologise without cancelling it. I can apologise clearly and own my part.

Question 3 of 3 When someone explains how your action affected him or her, what happens inside you?

I defend myself immediately. I listen, but defensiveness is strong. It depends on the person and issue. I usually listen before defending. I can listen, understand, and accept responsibility where needed.

Solution Focus

How well you move from blame and winning toward agreements, boundaries, and changed behaviour.

Question 1 of 3 After conflict, what do you focus on most?

Who was wrong and who won. Making sure my side is understood. Both blame and solutions. What needs to change next. Practical repair, boundaries, and changed behaviour.

Question 2 of 3 When the disagreement affects a relationship, family, class, church group, or workplace, what do you want next?

I mainly want to prove my point. I want peace, but not always change. I want change if both sides cooperate. I usually want the connection to become healthier. I want truth, repair, and a healthier pattern.

Question 3 of 3 When a next step is needed, how clear can you become?

I struggle to agree on any practical step. The next step stays vague. Sometimes we agree on something useful. I can usually agree on a boundary or action. I can help turn conflict into a clear repair action.