The Boundary Compass

Only after I am tired or angry. I notice late, when backing out feels difficult. It depends on the person and the request. I usually notice before I say yes to too much. I notice early enough to choose my answer and explain it clearly.

I often feel trapped but still call it helping. I sense pressure, but I struggle to separate it from care. Sometimes I want to help, and sometimes I feel forced. I can usually tell why I am saying yes. I can care about someone and still choose what I can give.

I notice only after I react or withdraw. I know something is wrong, but the limit is unclear. Sometimes I understand it and sometimes I do not. I usually see that I did not speak up about a limit. I can identify the limit and address it before hidden anger leads.